Strap-ons are a great addition because anyone can use them and how you use them is entirely up to you. You can use them as a gender-affirming part of your sex life or as a way to pleasure your partner in ways you may not normally be able to.

If you are interested in getting a strap-on, but you find the number of variations and accessories available on sites like wetforher.com a bit daunting, this guide will help break down your options so that you can get started and find the right strap-on for you and your partner.

Picking the Right Harness

The harness needs to suit your preferences, from comfort to size. In general, there are three types of harnesses:

1.     Jockstrap Strap-On

This option is minimal and looks a lot like a jockstrap (hence the name). It has straps that go around your waist and over each butt cheek. They are usually adjustable, making this a good one for playing around with your preferences.

2.     Thong Strap-On

This design is very similar to the jockstrap, but instead of going over your butt cheeks, it goes between them – similar to a thong. Like the jockstrap style, this one can often be adjusted to suit your size and comfort levels.

3.     Underwear Strap-On

This option will need you to choose the right size, as it isn’t adjustable like the others. Typically, it looks like regular boxer underwear with an O-ring attachment. However, it can be a bit less stable, so you’ll need stabilizing plates for best performance.

 Picking the Right Dildo

The dildo in question should usually be to your partner’s preference. The only time this won’t be the case is if you are looking to affirm your gender with a realistic penis dildo that matches your skin tone. Even then, having your partner pick out a dildo is a great way to bond and ensure they are comfortable.

While some enjoy realistic dildos, others are very uncomfortable with them. In that case, there are many fun colors and even finger-shaped strap-on dildos to give your partner the sensation of very satisfying fingering.

Accessorize

There are several accessories you’ll want to consider adding to your setup. If your partner doesn’t enjoy deep penetration or you want to focus on g-spot or prostate stimulation, then buffer rings are an excellent addition. Plus, there are also dildo base covers that stimulate the wearer’s clitoris for added pleasure.

If you find that the dildo is unstable even with a properly sized strap-on harness, there are also stabilizers to add to your gear. When in doubt, know you can never have too many options!

Bonus: Double-Ended Dildos

Though not technically a strap-on, double-ended dildos are an exciting way to enjoy double penetration between you and your partner. These types of dildos do take practice, and for the best results, you’ll want to work on building those pelvic floor muscles.

Generally, there are glass, vibrating, and regular double dildos to choose from, but there are plenty of other options out there as well.